My radiant broken heart

It has been said that often the heart must break in order to open and that our suffering

has been the fertile ground upon which our compassion has grown and our heart has

blossomed.

When we withdraw from the world owing to a painful experience or relationships from

our past, be that a romantic relationship or our childhood relationships to our

family of origin, others often perceive us as acting from a broken heart. However,

when we look more closely, it is not that the heart is broken; it is that we have

built a wall around it to keep others out and perhaps to numb ourselves from the

pain of separation – not necessarily separation from people, but separation from

the love we once knew.

As we approach healing the hurt of our past we must call upon courage to dare let

down the walls, even for just a moment, for in that moment there is silence, and

in that silence the truth of love can be present. In Family Constellation work

we often used healing sentences to bring us to that place of silence, which can

be profound. The words themselves merely point towards the truth, for truth always

resides in the silence, in the stillness of connection to self and other.

A picture paints a thousand words as the living dynamic of a Family Constellation

comes to life the picture is able to silently inform us of a greater, deeper and

more profound truth that is beyond all of the words of the stories we have told

about our mother, father, siblings, former spouse or even the stories we have told

about ourselves. As we have the courage to step beyond the stories we have so clung

to and the self image they produce, we can be witness to the all pervasive love

that binds all human relationships. When this is witnessed and experience we again

call upon the courage to dissolve the walls we have been living behind and allow

our heart to break open.

We walk away with a radiantly broken heart. No words, the truth of who we are residing

in the silence.

Shavasti

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